Countless social media and apps dominate the generation today. It eats most of our time, convenient to communicate and to connect to with anyone instantly and it’s replacing the old fashion dating encounters. Online dating or Facebook dating, substitutes the romance of meeting the person in public and hitting it off right away. To some, they may find this intimidating and to others, admits to diving into this quests.
As there are a lot of upmarket dating apps today, our story is no different from swiping left or right as most dating apps. It constitutes of matched interest, dodgy profile photo and sending a message on Facebook app 8 years ago, Are You Interested. Just like a poker game app on FB, this application uses your information you have provided on your profile and gives you an easy access to view the person you wish to talk. I admit I’m an anxious and shy person, and it’s a nightmare trying to meet a stranger in the public. As I was single at that time, so I gave it a go. And I’m glad I did!
I remember back in the days signing to different social media website to connect with friends. I started with signing up for Friendster, MySpace and lastly; Facebook – a revolutionary social platform today! That being said, it is still unbelievable that a single swipe turns out to be a monumental event of our lives.
I used to be embarrassed when friends ask how my husband and I first met, I often times skip the part that I have met him on a Facebook story. If I remember it correctly, his profile photo was just ordinary. It then sparks an excitement knowing his a traveler and adventurist just like me. We hit it off by sending messages on Facebook and exchanging phone number while he’s working in the Philippines. I have decided to see him and to have a diving lesson, and the rest is history!
In a world where we are all caught up in making a living and catching up errands; I wonder if people still experiencing real-life approach to dating. In all honesty, it takes a lot of courage of approaching people especially in public and engage in a guarded conversation. Men must have mastered the art of disappearing after the initial date, I didn’t fail to notice when I was single and dating in college. It was devastating!
As there may be a shortcut to knowing other people, it takes a lifetime to understand them. It requires both to be doing the legwork, whether it may be an old fashion meeting stranger or using dating app. Successful relationships demand time, respect, space and patient commitment. It doesn’t come about by any luck, a coincidence or happens just because you wish it. Mutual respect and cooperation fuels successful affinity.
My husband, I met in January 2010 and it’s an unceasing work, up to this day. There may be times that we want to give up, but our willingness to make it work succeeded through. I’m glad that we were on the app, or we would probably never met. Our story may not be your ordinary love story but it sure is better than romantic Hollywood movies.